Friday, January 3, 2014

A New Year in the Resolution-Free Zone

I stopped making New Year's resolutions a few years ago, simply because of the added stress that those resolutions brought to my life in the few short weeks that I was able to keep them on track.

Initially, I felt lost without having several resolutions to guide me through January of that first year.   I felt that everyone else had made their resolutions and that maybe I was wrong not to.  But, I proceeded to be the salmon swimming against the current that first year and am so thankful that I stoically bucked the status quo to become one of the few who continue to not make a New Year's resolution each year.

As a side note, let's be honest - no one really gets past January with their resolutions intact (without some modification from their first version of it) ... Okay, maybe a few die-hards do, but I am not speaking to those one-percenters!

I am certain I have lost some of those that are steadfast in resolution-making  - who were reading up to this point, but that is okay.  Those still reading probably want to know how to overcome the urge to make a New Year's resolution.  Unfortunately, I do not have the answer, but can only offer a little advice to you on how to proceed into the new year without being ridiculed for having no resolution and hopefully get you on a path to a New Year's resolution-free lifestyle.

The very first year that I did not make any promises to myself or to my family to lose weight, eat healthier, be nicer to people, stop hiding chocolate in places I would forget to look and stop rambling on about meaningless topics, I was irritated.

More than just irritated, I was angry that I had no resolutions to torture myself with at the beginning of the new year and  had nothing to add to the conversation when someone asked me what my New Year's resolution was.  I simply stated to them that my New Year's resolution was not to have any New Year's resolutions.

This news came as a shock to most of my friends and family.  It was as if I had stated that I had taken up Voodoo or Oprah-ism as my new religion (not that there is anything wrong with those religions - just saying).

Yes, that first year was difficult, I lost friends,acquaintances and strangers alike because of my new found views.  But, it made me realize that the New Year is not the only time to set goals or to make resolutions.  No, the time to do this is each and every day of the year.

You heard me correctly ... We all need to be disciplined and resolute enough to state and pursue our goals or resolutions 365 days a year!  This was the new mindset I learned that very first year.

Some may think I am speaking out of both sides of my mouth at once here, but I assure your that there is a subtle difference between making a New Year's resolution and making a choice to state and pursue your goals each day of the year.  That subtle difference is TIME.

Time is all we really have here on Earth and why should we make things harder on ourselves to accomplish something in a given, peer-pressured time-frame at the beginning of any year?  It just makes sense to me to work on things in life a little at a time, step by step and without the added hubbub or stress of it being a New Year's resolution.

Simply said, we need to make the most of the time we have each and every day of the year.

So, go forth and set your goals on a daily basis.  Work towards those goals each day and you will be amazed at the progress you can make throughout the year.


  1. The one and only NY resolution that I've ever made that I managed to have about a 75% success with was last year when I promised myself that I would deposit 10% of any paycheck into my savings account before I paid anything else. The money added up pretty fast and came in handy when I had a couple of large unexpected expenses, so I'm doing it again this year. And if I hit 75% again, I'm calling it a win.

  2. Thanks for taking the time to comment and congratulations on your success last year! I would take 75% as a a win, too. :-)

  3. Hi there. Sorry I'm a little late to your New Years entry! Thank-you for your recent comment on my own blog, which is what brought me here. :)

    'I lost friends, acquaintances and strangers alike because of my new found views.'
    I struggle to even comprehend that, it just seems so ... wrong! I had no idea NYRs were such a big deal for some people - and while I was glad before that they aren't a big "thing" here (New Zealand), now I'm immensely relieved.
    I blogged about this subject myself this year too, coming to the conclusion that if change really needs to happen it can start to happen any darn day of the year! What I do lack, though, is the resolve/discipline/commitment you talk about here - to really stick to my goals no matter when I make a start on them.

  4. Thanks for dropping by Christine. I do not miss NYR's at all - less stress now that I no longer make them.

    I came upon your blog from the "Going Gray, Looking Great" FB page. I loved your post about going gray and thought you would enjoy my e-book (free for US and all Int'l versions) through tomorrow.